“The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.” -Brian Tracy

This Is Your Bran In Love by Dr. Earl Henslin

While this book is geared towards those who are already married I think many singles may miss out on a superb relationship book if they allow the cover to stop them. This can be a real tool in helping prevent things from going wrong in the first place plus who wouldn’t like some clues into the brain in love.

Love is a drug? First sparks are like coke to be exact according Dr. Henslin, the effects of which wear off after a bit (the Honeymoon effect?). This is when you can either be left, again according to Henslin, with something even better or a huge mess. This also can explain why some people never go the distance, instead always wanting the initial high of budding relationships. For those interested in Phycology, these chapters are pretty interesting.

This is what many will consider a spiritually based book, but surprisingly and interestingly enough the spirituality was more Judaism based (the publisher, Thomas Nelson, is known for its Christian based books). Typically this fails to interest me but in this case the spirituality added to the book overall.

The meat of the book once again is the way it could aid both singles looking for their true love in life and those already in long term relationships through sobering findings. The gist of which seems to be things that Grandmama probably already told you. Being friends first, having a shared love of doing something together, and being OK with yourself (taking care of your own soul, sexuality) makes a real difference in finding lasting love.

On the other hand marked depression and other physiological problems can put up walls that rob a person of finding anything. As Dr. Henslin explains patterns of poor relational habits can form and take firm hold in a persons life. The book has chapters on ways to understand what may be causing problems in a relationship and how to fix them but what it comes down to is the fact you really can only change yourself. Someone who is uninterested in changing themselves probably won’t. Once the drug wears off, it might be glaringly obvious and utterly painful.

I give this book ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ out of 5

Review copy provided by Thomas Nelson

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